Can not feeling safe to begin with attract a stalker? What to do about being terrorized.

Hey Gigi,

I have a suggestion: How to deal with manifestations that manifest quicker and stronger?!?

My Twin soul is dealing with very strong issues that are manifesting. “Knowing” how stuff works still doesn’t make the apparent “threat” any less fearful. For instance: She has fears regarding being safe, and is now being threatened by a stalker. As we all know the authorities can’t do anything without “hard” evidence. These situations are manifesting on a quicker and scarier level..

If not a video, a reply would be greatly appreciated.



(BTW, Love the work your doing)

Hello Vincent,

Thank you for taking the time to write me and share your story. It sounds like you are going through some very intense times.  As with the discovery of personal issues or patterns it can be really productive to consider the spiritual roots that are the foundation of what is happening in our lives. So it is really good that you guys are digging deep and considering that the reason why someone is making you feel unsafe (stalker) has to do with a deeper pattern of you feeling chronically unsafe.

Finding the root to kill the weed.

Perhaps there have been past circumstances that have caused your partner to feel this way? If that is the case than it is important to begin working from where these experiences began, the root. Was there a specific time in the past where your partner began not trusting the world around him/her or not feeling safe? When did this happen? How did this happen? What emotions did it bring forward? How did it impact your thoughts, feelings, relationships, and world view compared to how you were before? Even though it may be painful to bring forward experiences that feed into a pattern of not feeling safe, it can help us understand and therefore release our fear. Fear has a stronger hold on our psyche when we let its initial discomfort keep us from working through it and using it as the tool that it is. More often than not the honest realization that a pattern exists is enough to immediately begin shifting your frequency as our consciousness stops seeing the fear pattern as based in an actual threat and lets it go.

If someone is stalking you, terrorizing you or bullying you it is not your fault. Everyone deserves to feel safe and peaceful.

It is important to note that it is NEVER your fault if someone is stalking you or trying to terrorize you. There is nothing that you could do to someone to make that an OK option. You do not deserve to be terrorized or stalked you deserve to feel safe, loved, and happy all the time. If someone is doing these things to you they have fallen into some serious distortions within their consciousness, most likely to do with control and power issues that, believe it or not, have nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own ideas of power and control.

Love yourself and take care of yourself in order to develop a strong, healthy vibrational frequency.

Sometimes we can feel guilty or low and think that we deserve ill treatment but in reality it is never the case so it is important to hold strongly in your heart and body, affirm it if you have to, that you are entitled to joy, love, peace and harmony. As creatures of vibration in a world of resonance the best defence is a good offence so feel your value, beauty and worth very strongly. Engage in acts of pampering and self love. Begin eating well, drinking lots of water, start meditating more often, exercise, take up that hobby that you always wanted.

Take care of yourself without guilt. Begin building a stronger internal world and making yourself a priority. Activities that allow love to be generated within your system give you a very strong presence in this world.  This may feel like the last thing you want to do but that is precisely why you need to do it. If you start nurturing and loving yourself you begin to magnetize yourself to some very high vibrational energy. When that genuinely happens negative situations begin resolving themselves and you begin to expand into situations that inspire you as opposed to frighten you. I’m not talking about going and getting a mani-pedi, or running a bubble bath for half an hour and feeling completely selfish about it the entire time. No, sorry that won’t do. I’m talking honestly and truly investing in yourself through taking the initiative to bravely listen to your heart and follow through with what you genuinely need to do/think/experience in order to feel good moment to moment. I’m talking taking active responsibility in bringing yourself to feelings of peace, love, appreciation and happiness if you begin to feel yourself sinking into the gutter of the emotional scale.

Prioritizing your health (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual) brings you into your optimal state where even when fearful things happen you automatically move into a higher perspective and get intuition on how to navigate it in a way where all involved can move into the highest resolution for the situation. When we slip into fear or panic to too long we unknowingly perpetuate situations that validate the fear and panic. This can be confusing as sometimes we feel that fear and panic makes our issue more valid or serious, or perhaps we will get attention which can feel good when we are vulnerable. However when our vibrational frequency is overcome with fear, self pity, panic, or stress of any kind for a long period of time, we simply do not have access to our higherselves and the wisdom that is waiting there. When we become still, listen and bring love into our hearts we begin getting answers, inspiration and ultimately strong enough to move through whatever it is that is in from of us.

Get help.

It is also important to stay grounded, keep notes, and keep the police and people you love informed as many times these situations benefit form a strong support system and the collaboration of many caring and qualified individuals. Ignoring serious situations will not make them go away, even as “spiritual” people we must do our due diligence. It can help to remember that counsellors, police officers, friends and family have intuition and insights that can really help you, involving them in your situation allows them to bring their unique abilities forward and can take pressure off you. Many times we cannot see ourselves as clearly as we see others, so in tough situations like this it is helpful to allow others to help you.

I hope this helps,



Opening the Third Eye.

Opening the third eye




First and foremost it must be said that threshold systems within the body open/release/balance all the chakras/ energetic points in the exact order that you consciousness can handle in the exact time that they need to be opened. This opening happens with no conscious attention necessary. There is no actual need to directly target a chakra and open it unless you would like to play with the experience of opening it for fun.


Clairvoyance is an intense ability to have.


Clairvoyance and the ability to perceive higher spectrums of energy is connected to the third eye or 6th chakra. This means that as that chakra is brought into balance, we begin to re-gain our ability to see beyond this 3d world. Initially we may begin to see colours or little flashes of light. We may get visions or images projected in our mind or we may even begin seeing other worldly things with our physical eyes. This is a big deal, it can be very intense and shocking to begin perceiving beyond what we have been taught is “real” in this world. For this reason your third eye, and the re-gaining of all the abilities that it represents, will only come forward when there is a specific amount of coherence or balance within the body. This is to protect you from any psychological shock or damage that may occur when if we begin to open up too quickly.


Your coherency determines when your third eye starts to fire up.


When there is a deep level of balance within our consciousness consistently, especially when we are going through stressful situations, our higherselves will begin to see us as stable enough to handle the responsibility of more abilities and begin expanding and healing the areas of the physical and etheric body that will allow us to take on more psychic energy. So, in other words, your higherself will automatically open you up as your body begins to move into a balanced enough state in order to handle the responsibility of those kind of openings.


Grounding can lead to opening up to higher dimensional energies associated with the third eye.


Many times if we focus directly on a chakra we believe needs to be opened we can feel frustrated as it seems that even though we are putting in all this effort nothing seems to be happening. This is because our entire energetic system is intertwined. All of our chakras, etheric bodies, physical body and everything in between are all connected. They all function in a chain reaction in order for one to shift we may need to bring balance to another in order to keep our system flowing properly. We may not realize consciously that our sacral chakra needs to be opened/cleared before we can open our third eye. In many cases individuals who carry a great deal of spiritual energy naturally need to focus on grounding and working with the lower chakras before they can move further within their upper energetic system. More often than not as soon as they begin focusing on grounding and bringing more awareness and intention into the physical world they burst into higher levels of awareness and creativity. We need deep roots before we can expand upward.


So, what I am trying to say about opening the third eye is that perhaps the most effective way to directly open it is to focus on bringing yourself into the highest level of coherency possible. That may mean looking into an area of your life that seems completely unrelated as the more we expand the more we see that everything is connected. I could list off foods to eat that resonate with the pineal, or tell you to stare at an indigo crystal for 6 minutes and 6 seconds, but in reality the most effective way to open a chakra or gain intuitive abilities is to focus on yourself as whole understanding that when you honestly do that you WILL unfold in the most beautiful way. You will gain more abilities and your life will improve in the exact direction you need it to. It is that simple. Awakening is simple whether it be your third eye or not: Eat clean, meditate, play, be kind, create, drink lots of water, move your body, love yourself, follow your heart. If you can manage those things your third eye will not be able to not open, it will be inevitable, along with your happiness.



How Do I Deal With Negativity and Drama?

Hey Gigi,

I love your videos. Can you please speak about how to deal with drama and negativity from other other people? Especially how to act when someone is being directly rude to you?

Thanks in advance,


Thanks for writing me Sarah. I completely hear you on this one. Especially when we are tired, hungry and over-worked.

I just want to start off and say that it is an honour to be love for someone when they have slipped into their darkest patterns. It is a complete, alchemical, transformational gift to be able to hold the presence of love while someone around you is completely lost in their pain. It may be the exact opposite thing you feel like doing, but, do it anyway, love them anyway. This means that when a family member, friend, spouse, or co-worker is acting from a place of disconnection, and pain it is your highest calling to move into your higher perspective and not engage. This ability can take time to cultivate, its not easy holding a space for love and being the bigger person, and to be honest, it’s not supposed to be.

In these circumstances we not only see the persons ego, and pain, but our own, that is why it is so difficult. Becoming love, which feels like: calm, peace, patience, higher perspective, compassion, open space, flexibility etc,, allows you to acknowledge, override, and release your issues while turning into a mirror for the other person to release theirs. When you hold space for someone without engaging it makes their behavior more obvious on a very deep level and they are more likely to realize that certain patterns are more harmful than helpful.

It might not feel very rewarding as you disengage into your higher knowing in the midst of drama. However, it is the most productive, rewarding and of course the most spiritually gratifying thing you can do in a situation like that. You may not be able to do it every time, it is not about being perfect, it is simply becoming aware that you have a choice in how to react and understanding that you can completely shift the energy in a situation through your awareness.

At first this process can feel pointless and your ego may tell you that you are being “disrespected” or “taken advantage” of on some level but in reality no one can disrespect you or take advantage of you, really. Our self respect and self worth are feelings we have about ourselves not something another person can take away. How someone else treats you is not an indicator of who YOU are as a person it is an indicator of who THEY are as a person. Further, what you buy into, and how you perceive how others treat you indicates what you truly believe about yourself. If you sincerely believe that another human being can take away your worth or your ability to respect yourself you are opening yourself up to experiences where that belief is proven to you. You will find yourself a victim time after time until you realize you had “it” in you all along.

Anyway, the best thing to do when you are experiencing negativity from others is to immediately become calm, if you don’t initially feel it get yourself there by lengthening your breathing. Slow your mind, bring it as close to stillness as possible. When you do this you begin changing frequencies or raising your vibrational frequency. As you raise your frequency you begin to see the situation in a different light. You begin to understand more perspectives and even get a sense for a few different timelines that are forming in relationship to the experience you are having. More information becomes available to you and you move into a space where you are so full that any ideas that you are not worthy or completely awesome become non-sense. Dramatic moments are generally dramatic because they are charged with huge amounts of mental and emotional energy. That energy is powerful and when you slow down and bring yourself to love you are able to harness the energy of drama properly. You become an instrument of the highest good, you become love.

Sometimes when we hear “be love” we interpret it as be a “push over” or “put up with stuff that is abusive in order to be positive.” Being love is not about being positive. It is not about ignoring peoples behaviour and accepting individuals that are abusive. Being love is about developing the discipline and knowledge to raise your vibrational frequency in circumstances that are difficult for you in order to ensure that things move forward in the best direction possible. It doesn’t work if we just intellectualize love and then act from what we have decided love is or what we think it should be. Love is felt, and when you feel love within yourself you immediately begin shifting into your highest expression.

When you finally allow yourself to connect with your heart and bring love forward it may tell you to leave a relationship, or move to a new city. You may feel very strongly that you need to become assertive and find the exact words you need to say in order to restore balance. You may find yourself calming down and a new perspective coming forward that allows you to release any stress or tension you are holding. The bottom line is that when you raise your vibrational frequency to be more in line with love than fear the exact behaviour, thought process, or emotion that you need to restore balance to your system will come forward. Love is the vibrational frequency that allows us to create the ultimate homeostasis, when truly anchored in the vibration of love you will say and do the exact things that lead to the best outcome for all involved.

So, now that we have caught onto this, it is our job to hold this space and be love as much as possible. Even when we’re vengeful, or frustrated, or it seems really rewarding to be a jerk. At the end of the day there is no bigger teaching moment than genuinely holding space for someone being absolutely terrible to you. In fact, most people will never see the err in their ways, or how destructive they are until someone around them stops engaging with them. It is only in the disengaging, or refusing to match frequencies that makes us question ourselves. As humans we always want to feel as though we are understood and in a backwards way engaging on the same vibrational level, especially if its negative, makes that individual feel validated. Your matching vibrational response (ie. anger to anger) simply encourages the belief systems within them that caused them to lash out in the first place.

When we disengage and calm ourselves into a loving frequency there is no distraction, there is simply them experiecing the rawness of their own pain. Eventually, if no one spirals into their pain vortex with them they will have no choice but to experience their pain so deeply that they chose to let it go once and for all. Many times it is the genuine experience of our pain/darkness that we finally let it go.


Fear of Oneness and Martyr Guides

Hey Gigi,

I would love to hear your thoughts on why I am so resistant to oneness. I like my personal identity and the idea of everyone being one irritates me.

Also or if you know of or have thoughts about high level guides incarnating on earth for some special purpose. Like guides that don’t “need” to be here but coordinated coming. Thanks!

I’m still in the esoteric closet so would wish to remain anonymous. Thank you for your videos. I love them!!


Hello JD!

Thank you for these questions, lets get to it!

Resistant to Oneness.

Right off the bat I get the impression/ feeling that you personally were involved in may past lives, and even potentially within this life, where you did not get to celebrate your unique identity. You did not get to express yourself fully and explore your individuality. Many times this comes from being involved in religions, cultures, or even family situations where you had to renounce who you truly were. For example dedicating your life to spirituality at a very young age, being drawn into a cult or religious movement where you had to renounce who you were in order to be “chosen”, suffering through arranged marriages when love and relationships were and important karmic theme, being born into certain cultures where you felt forced to let go of who you really are to fit in , even going to war or battle for the “sake of the greater good.”  All of those types of incarnations can leave an individual with a strong opposition to blending in and the feeling of losing individuality.  Unfortunately Sometimes on planet Earth we can attempt to mirror the idea of oneness and its highest expression in humanity, which is being of service. We do this unconsciously while participating  in religions, vocations, or strict familial arrangements that are intended to be of service but actually end up prematurely cutting individuals off from the exploration of their own identity which ironically is the true root of your service in this world. This can lead to a fear or resentment of the feeling of oneness and the loss of personal identity in which it is associated.

What is the solution to this kind of experience? 

It can be very helpful to acknowledge and accept that you have this reaction. It is completely normal to have aversions to opening up to our higher selves and re-experiencing oneness. Connecting with the godhead, which represents oneness, is no small feat, and it is perfectly OK if it makes you feel uneasy. The depth at which you allow yourself to feel ease with where you are is equal to the openess that will allow the answers to come that allow you to release it.

Oneness perspectives

Also, it must be said that as our consciousness is multidimensional by nature, meaning that it exists simultaneously on many different plains and dimensions of reality, we have the ability to slip into oneness consciousness and not necessarily lose ourselves within it. The reason for this is that although you are perceiving or experiencing oneness you are doing so rooted into a 3d consciousness. As long as you are in your body and experiencing this life your 3d perspective and personality/ individuality will be intact.

It is also in our nature, as multidimensional beings directly embodying the godhead, to actually experience different sensations and realities simultaneously. That means that as we grow and evolve spiritually we gain the ability to hold two (or more) simultaneous experiences within our consciousness without feeling panic or a need to control and refine the experiences into one. That means that we can experience, simultaneously the feeling of oneness, the experience of oneness while still feeling and experiencing our complete individuality as a 3d human.

Guides that do not need to be here or have no karmic ties.

This is an interesting concept as there is a distinct tone of martyrdom. We envision saintly, angelic saviours so pure that they don’t really need to be here but chose to anyway because they are so selfless. In my experience and knowledge of the incarnational process those types of incarnations don’t really take place. Many times we project a very innocent, karma-less pure, persona onto highly service based individuals who incarnate on Earth. We do this because when we interpret their energy it can be so strongly in alignment (in certain areas) compared to how we feel about our own that it can feel that way. We can feel that perhaps they have less distortions or shadows in particular areas compared to our where we feel we are. This can bring us to feelings of inspiration and awe can lead us to the worship of certain people or treating them like gurus. It is accurate to say that certain individuals incarnate into lives where they are very service oriented, inspirational, knowledgable with an uncanny ability to teach and heal. It would not be accurate to say that those people carry no karma or are seriously different than anyone else on the planet.

We all have lives where we embody a great deal of energy which may be interpreted by others as similar to an avatar or guru. All possible expressions of your soul are explored throughout various levels of time and space. This means that as a soul you have/ are living the highest expression imaginable and of course you have also lived some very dark and distorted lives where you were as “dark” and in pain as you were inspirational and full of light.

Truth be told highly spiritual teachers simply have chosen to experience life themes in which they inspire and heal, and to be honest, many individuals who have very inspiring powerful lives on Earth had equally impactful incarnations where they used those abilities to serve themselves more than others. Many times as a soul we must move through many “shadow lives” where we hurt ourselves and others (service to self) before we begin incarnating into lives where we heal and inspire others (service to others). The best teachers and healers are that way because they deeply understand their light. Teaching about divine energy, self empowerment, love, all uplifting healing topics is something that  requires some serious journeying into their inverse or darker expressions of their talents. Raw passion and charisma can be used to encourage and uplift or destroy and supress. Experiencing all possible distortions of your soul motivates us and gives us depth that is recognized as “truth’ by others. Generally souls incarnating into this timeline with  at the beginning of their journey (innocent), with very little  karmic experience to anchor them, have little knowledge or insights into how to thrive in 3d reality. They usually chose to live more secluded lives for a while in order to integrate 3d reality.  You can bet that any individual that lights your heart on fire and brings you to love has done some pretty sketchy things in their darker incarnations, and to be honest, I wouldn’t trust ‘em if they hadn’t.

I hope that helps,